you are not sure what your fetish is? What if you've just never put much
thought into what fantasy would turn you on?
Here are questions to ask yourself to diagnose your fetishes and fantasies:
- Is there a part of the body which you find just beautiful and want to engage with?
- Is there a part of the body which you take into account as criteria when picking a lover?
- When you day dream about passion and sex with a lover, what is the recurring scenario?
- When you masturbate, what do you think about? What are the recurring scenarios, people, locations, feelings?
- What is a scene in a movie that always arouses you?
- Have you always wanted to engage a device in sexual play? If so, which one?
- How about a food?
- How about a particular material?
- Is there a costume you have always wanted to try on because you just know that it would make you look and feel smokin'?
- Do you usually fantasize about being submissive, or submitting someone?
And if you are in need of examples to help you pinpoint, let me share some of the most common fetishes and fantasies out there. Surveys say:
- Feet and everything related
- Body piercings
- Leather, rubber, latex
- Sex in a public space
- Playing sexy nurse or sexy teacher
- Being a dominatrix
- Sex with a stranger
- Golden showers
- Asphyxiation (can be dangerous!)
- Menage a Trois, Quatre, Many